I need some sort of guide to explain to me what is going on inside the mind of my 8 year old sweet
demon daughter. I also need some serious work on patience. I may have to see about a daily yoga class or some sort of road map to inner peace.
We seem to be going through a lot of highs and lows and some serious anger outbursts lately. I am getting the feeling that the 8 year old doesn’t even know what she’s mad about 3/4 of the time. I spent a bit of time walking around the book store last week, sipping my SF ice caramel macchiato and decided to look for some books to read with the 8 year old about her feelings. She is feeling all her feelings at once lately and taking it out on the rest of us.
The 8 year old came home from school last week, she seemed happy when I picked her up, walked in the door promptly threw her back pack down and started barking out orders for her siblings to put their stuff away. All the while hers was just sitting there in a pile. When I calmly asked her to stop parenting for me and asked her to do her own jobs, well…………holy shit. Breakdown of epic proportions.
The 8 year old is also getting jealous of the two 7 year olds. She has accused me of loving one of the 7 year olds more than her because that 7 year old and I like to snuggle. She seems to forget that she does not, yet when reminded that doesn’t seem to factor into her reasoning. So then it’s on to whatever else she can dream up to be jealous/angry about.
I was at Costco the other day and picked up some new back packs for the 7 year olds. I did not get the 8 year old one at the time because I thought that she and I could go pick one out together. She immediately notices the new back packs and that there are only two. Does she give me a chance to explain, nope. None. Immediate blow up. I let her blow up. Then explain my reasoning. The look of “ohhhh, I see” comes across her face and she exits the room.
Honestly, I can’t fucking win. Even if I had bought her a backpack there would still have been a problem or she would have liked the one I bought for the female 7 year old more.
8 year old has said we don’t do anything together without the 7 year olds. I was using this backpack purchase as some time together. Hopefully she will come to understand this as well.
Tonight after bedtime, I will be madly searching the Interweb world for blogs of parents with spawn in my age bracket. Especially girls. I can’t be the only mother feeling this way….can I? So if you happen to know of a great blog to read or even a book or perhaps you have written a manual on raising girls, I’d love to read it!!
The countdown is on for separate bedrooms….the husband doesn’t quite agree. I believe I need to go away for a week’s vacation for him to maybe, just maybe, get a better idea of what is going on.