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"Are they triplets?" "No, I found the other one in the parking lot and thought, 'why not?'"

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Birthday season is drawing to a close

307f99c601052fefc4d9dcbc447947b6Our family gets hit pretty hard with birthdays it seems. The husband is a bit before the holiday season, I’m just weeks before Santa arrives and then Isabelle is two months later followed up by the twins a month later! It’s a lot!!! I basically need to sell organs on the black market to afford anything from September to April!

Isabelle invited 2 friends to go bowling, have dinner at Harvey’s(her choice, not ours) and then home for cake and gifts and a sleepover! Isabelle asked from the beginning that her brother and sister not be involved in much of her birthday party. We agreed to a point. Her party was on her actual birthday this year. We decided with her that it would just be her and her friends to go bowling. Then we would meet up as a family for dinner. Later at the house we would do our best to entertain the twins so that Izzy and her friends could just have some girl time.

This almost went well. Izzy agreed to everything but also insisted that Madeline not be allowed to sleep in her room for the sleepover part. We understand that Isabelle needs her space and she should be allowed to have it. She just goes about it all wrong. Instead of saying nicely or asking Madeline nicely, she was pretty rude about the whole thing. Face palm. The husband and I smoothed things over with Madeline. Aidan was more than happy to let her camp out on his bedroom floor. One condition of Madeline not sleeping in her own room, decided by Madeline, was that she would be taking their little radio with her into Aidan’s room. Isabelle was not impressed but I shot her a “Mommy isn’t putting up with anymore crap tonight!” look and Isabelle let it go. Mommy fact: I have  been known to sing “Let it Go” loudly and off key on purpose to the kids when moments like this occur. They hate it. Ahahahahahahahahahah!!!

The rest of the night went fairly well. Madeline only cried a handful of times because they didn’t want her around and she just kept going back for more. All in all, it went well and gave me a smidgen of hope for the two parties yet to come.

The twins have separate parties. They have separate friends. They like different things. Honestly, it’s like they aren’t twins at all.

Aidan had his party over March Break. I realized a little late that I am working solid weekends until the end of April and likely will be in May. It’s hard to have sleep overs during the week, what with getting their education interfering. Thankfully Aidan is not big on birthday parties. He only wanted to invite his bestie over. We took them to Springz, and indoor trampoline place. Then we headed to Aidan’s fav place for ribs, Rock Bottom. Then it was home for cake and presents and another sleep over. This time it was more Isabelle who struggled with not feeling included in what the boys were doing. I was constantly after her to leave them alone. I tried to have her recall what we went through for her party less than a month before. That didn’t seem to matter of course. In the end fun was had and Isabelle pouted for a while but eventually seems to have gotten over it.

Madeline is having her party this weekend. The twins birthday is this weekend. So again, she is doing something with just her friends and then we will meet up with the husband and other two spawn for dinner at Maddy’s fav spot, Swiss Chalet and then home for cake, gifts and sleep over. Already, Isabelle is demanding that she get to take the radio when she has to sleep in Aidan’s room. She has been making sure we are aware of this tidbit for the past two weeks. She is going to make sure she gets exactly what Madeline got. There is no doubt in my mind that my entire evening will be spent refereeing Isabelle away from Madeline and her friends.

This brings me to the talk I will be having with the kids tonight over dinner. If this crap continues during Madeline’s party. Then this is the last party that will happen in this house where friends are invited. It’s takes away from the enjoyment of parties when the grown ups have to police the kids. Not to mention how much fun are they really having when they spend more time arguing with siblings than just hanging out with their friends. So, if there is any crap pulled this weekend it will be family only birthday parties until they can show us that they are capable of not being assholes to one another(this could take a few years I think…..)

I will post a brief update on this situation next week!


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The calm before the storm

Tomorrow is April 1st. I don’t have any brilliant April Fools planned. I have never really been in to this day. This day does however mark that I will have 22 days until we leave for Florida. You know how some people book their vacation and it’s not for months but are literally packed two days later? Yeah…..I’m not that person. At least not since having children.

I get these wonderful messages from Facebook about my memories. This time two years ago I was freaking out because we were leaving on vacation to Florida and the husband was in another city for court and wasn’t too sure he’d be making it home in time for our departure. This year we don’t have the stress of his work stuff, but I have the stress of final exams. My last exam is 2 days before we leave.

I am doing my best to use my day time wisely to study. Trouble is shit still has to get done folks. Someone still has to do the laundry, load the dishwasher, unload it, make meals, make lunches, defuse Isabelle’s emotional freak-outs, persuade Madeline to stop pushing her sisters buttons,  read at bedtime, grocery shopping, dig out summer clothes and make kids try stuff on, run out and buy new summer clothes when stuff doesn’t fit, new sandals, new bathing suits. Lets add in I have lost a lot of weight and have absolutely nothing for summer. I need a new wardrobe but do not have the job to pay for it!! Then there is the dreaded bathing suit shopping for myself. I don’t even want to go there, but the kids seem to enjoy it when Mom is actually in the pool.

22 days friends. I have 22 days to study, write my exams and get everything needed organized, washed, packed and ready to go. I can do this.

This is going to be a great vacation. Once all the stress is done, I am going to be so pumped to get away for a while and just enjoy some time with my family.

The kids have all wisely used their birthday money this year. Each of them decided to purchase an iPod Shuffle and ear phones. So I will be loading them up with music and audio books for them to enjoy on the trip South. Thank you to the Grandparents, Great Grandparent(who we will need to call as I’m pretty sure he doesn’t read this blog) and to my Aunt S.B. The kids have written a note to you, I just have done a stellar job at forgetting to mail it!! Promise it will be in the mail by next week the latest!!

This vacation is gonna be awesome!! On top of that I will be finished school and hopefully be able to apply to graduate by the time we get home!! School was the easy part, next hurdle is writing the resume and finding a job!! If anyone has any great advice on that stupid “Objective” line I’d love to hear it!!